Should We Strive To Be Understood?

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Should We Strive To Be Understood?

Is our longing to be seen and understood a longing for shared reality? Is being seen and understood a dance of attuning and deep listening?

Life In Flow, Yulia Bogdanova, Irina Mishina, and CoachingbyPolina

Apr 02, 2026

Greetings!

You are in for another blindfolded conversation. How much are we not seeing with our eyes open. What could reveal itself when seeing is done through senses besides eyes?

So, our invitation for you is to consider listening with your eyes closed. We’d be curious to hear from you on this.

In this episode we explore the word "understand," sense the longing for shared reality, and consider whether true understanding is about energetic resonance that goes beyond words. You are in for shared codes, morphic fields, dancing one’s PhD.

Whether each of us is seen and truly understood remains a question. 😜 We would be curious to hear your opinion.

These conversations are open explorations, that become richer with time and participation of others. We’d be thrilled to have you participate, if there was something that touched you. By commenting here, or sending us a message.

In flow,

Irina, Polina and Yulia

Some Things That Wanted to Be Said:

Irina

“To be understood is like being the wind welcomed by the branches of the tree.”
“The longing for feeling understood is longing for a shared reality.”
“You can’t tune the piano just once and then it will play the fine tune forever. You need to tune it periodically. It’s the same with our skill of attunement: it needs to be constantly honed.”
“Understanding without words — sometimes the words are coming from different coding systems, but understanding might still emerge if there is attunement at the deeper level.”
“Darkness definitely helps with the attunement and tuning into shared reality beyond words.”
“If I want to feel understood more, it’s also about how I am tuned into the world.”

Polina

“Can you feel me beyond the words? Can you expand your listening and receiving capacity to really feel me beyond the veil?”
“Understanding is like cuddling with your dog — full nervous system co-regulation, sweet unencumbered trust, and merging energetically while being totally different species.”
“If I don’t have clarity of what my desire is internally, how can I expect the other to understand me? it’s like setting everyone up for failure from the get go.”
“Words are code. The actual subtle energetics behind the words is the key to really receiving what someone is communicating.”
“I often experience with the masculine that they only want to understand me from their reference point — I have to fit into their framework. That doesn’t make me feel received.”
“Being understood is not about someone occupying my reality. It’s about there being space for my reality alongside theirs.”

Yulia

“The sense of being understood and the longing being satisfied came from being in nature. It’s so much easier to be understood — maybe because there are fewer layers than we humans have for making meaning.”
“I’ve had very precious experiences of being seen by non-humans.”
“To be understood is like seeing all of a sudden so much wisdom and shapes in a cloud that was just passing by.”
“I thought I understood the process of being understood. It turns out I don’t.”
“Maybe if we make space for worlds of others that don’t need to be similar to ours, that’s a good proxy for being understood.”
“Those fleeting moments of being deeply understood — one moment can expand into an eternity or a universe.”
“Maybe darkness and removing the visual stream could be the practice for being understood and understanding better.”

Let it flow,

Polina, Irina, and Yulya

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